Archive for November, 2012

…And One More Thing

This ecard pisses me off more than any other on the face of the planet.

I naively, and ignorantly, would have thought the same thing had I not been a SAHM for the last 2 years. Let me tell you something, staying at home with a toddler, aka: tiny tornado, requires 10x more work to keep up with the house than everyone leaving for 8-9 hours a day. The house being occupied for around 4 or 5 hours per day is not the same as it being occupied all day, everyday. And let me remind working moms of something else, they get alone time AND adult interaction time everyday. My alone time is spent showering on the days Little Miss won’t leave my side without a complete meltdown that I don’t have the energy to deal with. Or it’s spent doing the cleaning that I can’t do while she is awake. Being a SAHM is just as much work as working outside the home, it’s just DIFFERENT work. You sometimes have to deal with people you don’t like while we never get a day off (I always laugh when people say TGIF…I don’t get to clock out). It’s give and take. Some days, I wish I worked outside the home while other days, I nearly have a panic attack just imagining if I had to leave my sweet, precious rainbow baby in the care of someone less capable… Just like some days, a working mom can’t wait to drop off little Johnny at daycare because he is being such a handful while other days, loathes her friends who became SAHM’s.

Seriously, the comparison shit needs to fucking stop. Apples and oranges here, people. WOTH cannot be compared to being a SAHM. They. Are. Different. Period.


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A Bone To Pick

I keep seeing all of these cutesy quotes on Pinterest (I’m so sorry I’m bringing it up again!) and they annoy the shit out of me. Since I don’t want to annoy everyone on FB with my rants opinions, I decided to bring it here. Lucky you. So here goes…

Really? Assuming the good, especially of people, is asking for a kick in the teeth. Get real! Assuming the bad can prepare you, give you confidence, see the situation from every angle. Looking at something or someone from ALL sides would be more appropriate. This just seems a little too rainbows and puppies for my taste and irritates me every time I see it.

I disagree. When you do all of those things, it’s because you have boundary issues, not because you’re “too nice”. For God’s sake, take some responsibility for your actions and stop letting people take advantage of you. People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Which is why I haven’t spoken to my mother in almost 3 months, because I don’t ALLOW anyone to disrespect me the way she does. Boundaries, people. Stop playing the victim and grow a pair.

This kind of goes along with the first one. Being prepared is the way I want to walk into a hurdle, not pretending like something bad won’t happen if I just don’t think about it. THINK about what might go wrong so that if you’re faced with that obstacle, you can overcome it. Use the “what could go right” thoughts to remind you of your goal when you meet the “might go wrong”s.

Um, are we 12 and in jr high? Again, quite rolling over. If you don’t like that someone always and only calls you when they have a problem, stop answer the damn phone, genius. I think every person on the planet has had a “friend” like this. Whether they are still in your life is YOUR choice.

Oh, I’m sorry, I didn’t realize that it’s completely sanitary to have mold growing in the corners and a grimy film on the bathtub that you wash your children in. It’s not a wasted life, especially when you have children. It’s about keeping your family healthy and safe. I didn’t have a “clean” environment growing up and many times, I was embarrassed to bring friends over. My children will learn to pick up after themselves, clean up after themselves and will not be embarrassed. The home is a sanctuary and I prefer mine clean and orderly. As of right now, my house is very clean. All three bathrooms were cleaned today, carpets vacuumed, floors swept and mopped, no dishes in the sink, all surfaces freshly dusted and I don’t feel that was wasted time one bit.

I saved this one for last because I see it both ways. I’m sure this ecard was meant for the know-it-all in your office who butts into conversations with unsolicited advice. For me, I get so pissed when someone ASKS for advice, then gets defensive when you are honest. If you want me to stroke your ego or just agree with you, I’m totally fine with it. But don’t ask me what I’d do, then tell me that I don’t know what I’m talking about because my situation isn’t the same (even though I’m not looking at the issue from MY perspective). I like hearing other angles of an issue in my life because people outside (emotionally) the situation usually have a more logical/rational approach.

Ok, ranting over. 🙂

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