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…And One More Thing

This ecard pisses me off more than any other on the face of the planet.

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I naively, and ignorantly, would have thought the same thing had I not been a SAHM for the last 2 years. Let me tell you something, staying at home with a toddler, aka: tiny tornado, requires 10x more work to keep up with the house than everyone leaving for 8-9 hours a day. The house being occupied for around 4 or 5 hours per day is not the same as it being occupied all day, everyday. And let me remind working moms of something else, they get alone time AND adult interaction time everyday. My alone time is spent showering on the days Little Miss won’t leave my side without a complete meltdown that I don’t have the energy to deal with. Or it’s spent doing the cleaning that I can’t do while she is awake. Being a SAHM is just as much work as working outside the home, it’s just DIFFERENT work. You sometimes have to deal with people you don’t like while we never get a day off (I always laugh when people say TGIF…I don’t get to clock out). It’s give and take. Some days, I wish I worked outside the home while other days, I nearly have a panic attack just imagining if I had to leave my sweet, precious rainbow baby in the care of someone less capable… Just like some days, a working mom can’t wait to drop off little Johnny at daycare because he is being such a handful while other days, loathes her friends who became SAHM’s.

Seriously, the comparison shit needs to fucking stop. Apples and oranges here, people. WOTH cannot be compared to being a SAHM. They. Are. Different. Period.

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A Bone To Pick

I keep seeing all of these cutesy quotes on Pinterest (I’m so sorry I’m bringing it up again!) and they annoy the shit out of me. Since I don’t want to annoy everyone on FB with my rants opinions, I decided to bring it here. Lucky you. So here goes…

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Really? Assuming the good, especially of people, is asking for a kick in the teeth. Get real! Assuming the bad can prepare you, give you confidence, see the situation from every angle. Looking at something or someone from ALL sides would be more appropriate. This just seems a little too rainbows and puppies for my taste and irritates me every time I see it.

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I disagree. When you do all of those things, it’s because you have boundary issues, not because you’re “too nice”. For God’s sake, take some responsibility for your actions and stop letting people take advantage of you. People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Which is why I haven’t spoken to my mother in almost 3 months, because I don’t ALLOW anyone to disrespect me the way she does. Boundaries, people. Stop playing the victim and grow a pair.

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This kind of goes along with the first one. Being prepared is the way I want to walk into a hurdle, not pretending like something bad won’t happen if I just don’t think about it. THINK about what might go wrong so that if you’re faced with that obstacle, you can overcome it. Use the “what could go right” thoughts to remind you of your goal when you meet the “might go wrong”s.

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Um, are we 12 and in jr high? Again, quite rolling over. If you don’t like that someone always and only calls you when they have a problem, stop answer the damn phone, genius. I think every person on the planet has had a “friend” like this. Whether they are still in your life is YOUR choice.

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Oh, I’m sorry, I didn’t realize that it’s completely sanitary to have mold growing in the corners and a grimy film on the bathtub that you wash your children in. It’s not a wasted life, especially when you have children. It’s about keeping your family healthy and safe. I didn’t have a “clean” environment growing up and many times, I was embarrassed to bring friends over. My children will learn to pick up after themselves, clean up after themselves and will not be embarrassed. The home is a sanctuary and I prefer mine clean and orderly. As of right now, my house is very clean. All three bathrooms were cleaned today, carpets vacuumed, floors swept and mopped, no dishes in the sink, all surfaces freshly dusted and I don’t feel that was wasted time one bit.

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I saved this one for last because I see it both ways. I’m sure this ecard was meant for the know-it-all in your office who butts into conversations with unsolicited advice. For me, I get so pissed when someone ASKS for advice, then gets defensive when you are honest. If you want me to stroke your ego or just agree with you, I’m totally fine with it. But don’t ask me what I’d do, then tell me that I don’t know what I’m talking about because my situation isn’t the same (even though I’m not looking at the issue from MY perspective). I like hearing other angles of an issue in my life because people outside (emotionally) the situation usually have a more logical/rational approach.

Ok, ranting over. 🙂

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Let’s Talk Laundry

Hey folks! I haven’t posted in awhile and I don’t have a legit excuse. Except laziness, but that doesn’t count as “legit”. Meh.

To spare my FB news feed, I thought I’d post my rant/review here on…dun dun dun…MY LAUNDRY! We had a new washer and dryer delivered today and I’m really excited about it! It was a nice surprise before 11am, as we were told it would be here by TOMORROW. Let me explain why this is so exciting to me.

*…flashback time…*

Back in the fall of 2006, the husbee and I bought our first home together and our first washer/dryer set. Upon realizing the vast array of options available, we didn’t know where to start. Hubs happened upon a tiny local appliance store and was directed to a Speed Queen set. “What the hell is Speed Queen?” I asked later, skeptical of this “local” store. Apparently, this brand is used by any and all laundromats. These machines are used and abused for YEARS before being retired and still manage to get clothes clean, even in their old age. These machines all have the same guts but are available with different options (adjustable signal, automatic extra rinse, etc). Like buying a base model car vs. heated seats, leather, sun roof. I was still a bit skeptical, but the hubs got a good deal and with a track record like that, I’d give it a go. Holy amazingness. BEST.MACHINES.EVER. I was never disappointed by these machines. They were fast, got my clothes clean and got nearly all the dog hair out of my blankets, sheets, etc. But…and there’s always a but…I didn’t know what I had until it was gone.

*…fast forward 5 years…*

3 days before Baby Bear was born, husbee got a job offer we couldn’t refuse, starting in 4 weeks. 10 days after listing our house, we were in degotiation. We ended up selling our washer and dryer with the house (which is pretty standard). Unfortunately, the crazies we bought our current home from absolutely refused to leave their set, so we were forced to buy. I was swept up in the “pretty front-loader” hype and the previous owners had built a pedestal for theirs so it seemed logical to get one, too. We were living out of a hotel (that was equipped with a SQ washer and dryer on the second level, I might add) for 2.5 weeks, the munchkin was about 8 weeks old and we knew NOBODY. We NEEDED a washer and dryer by the time we finally got into the house and didn’t have a whole lot of time to shop (hubs working 10-12 hour days). We bought a Maytag 4000 Series set. It was clean white, silver buttons, lots of options, high efficiency, blah, blah, freaking blah. Within a month, we had to have a technician come out to figure out why the hell the washer nearly shook the entire house when it hit the spin cycle. “Out of balance” he tells us. Within a month? Ok, whatever. It continued to be kind of loud but we ignored it. I was not a fan from the beginning. Water pools at the front of the rubber seal and has to be wiped out after every load, dog hair and baby socks got stuck between the drum and the rubber seal, clothes would fall on the floor every time I tried to pull them out to switch them to the dryer, the lint trap barely ever had any lint/dog hair in it (gee, that makes you feel like you’re putting clean clothes on when you know HAIR is still stuck to everything). Of course, I was comparing it to my SQ set, the set I’d been using for the last 5 years.

*…fast forward 16 months later…*

About a week ago, hubs and I noticed how loud the washer had gotten. We’re talking jet engine loud. Can’t-hear-the-tv-over-the-noise (laundry room is down the hall and door closed) loud. Could-hear-it-from-the-road loud. When-friends-were-over-they-asked-what-the-hell-that-noise-is loud. Hubs took this past week off to accommodate his parents coming and decided to have a tech come out to check it out. It happened to be the same guy who came last year. Turns out, the Maytag 4000 Series washer is NOTORIOUS for a bearing breaking within the first two years. Also turns out, it’s an $800 problem. You can buy a new one for that price. What bullshit. We searched the internet a bit that night and found out that the tech wasn’t exaggerating, it’s a common problem. If we can get Maytag to send the part for free, we might be able to get it fixed and sell it on consignment. But Maytag only gives a one year warranty. We should have known that the product was junk if the company would only stand behind their product for one stinking year. We were going to need to buy a new set, or pay the same price to “fix” the one we had but would have to pay that in a year, when that part took a shit again. I didn’t care where we had to go to find a dealer, we were NOT getting anything but a SQ set. Luckily, we found a local appliance dealer that carries SQ and ended up getting the absolute cheapest, “base model” washer and dryer! These are top-loading, basic machines, people. The owner was surprised that I didn’t love the front loaders and didn’t want another set. Then told us how our brand is the machine you want if you get really dirty (um…we have 2 dogs…). Whatever, I was so happy to see that SQ symbol when we walked into that store!!! When we got home, hubs and FIL (father-in-law) tore out the tile pedestal the previous owners hastily and shabbily put together, and got the laundry room ready for my new set! After it was delivered and set up today, I did a load of my cleaning washcloths. I have 2 sets, one is colored and what I use to Swiffer my hardwood floors and the other set is all white and I use those to clean windows, mirrors and bathroom. Using the Maytag set, I’d have to wash these separately or I’d end up with dog hair and my hair all over the white cloths from the colored ones (after they were “clean” and dry). As it were, I’d have to pick hair off of the colored ones, but I was saving myself the hassle if I just did them separately. So much for “high efficiency” if I have to do 2 loads for 10 cloths, right? Just to prove my point, I put them all together in one load today and wouldn’t you know it, I didn’t pick a single hair off of ANY of these washcloths and the lint trap was FULL of my long hair and dog hair. I wanted to cry, it made me so happy. I finally feel like I have clean clothes, blankets, sheets, towels again! I had a lot more settings on my old SQ set, but I don’t give a damn. My laundry is clean again!

Moral of this too-long story….don’t you dare settle for less when you KNOW something works.

***If there are typos, I’ll fix them later but I’m on my computer and this damn thing has a tendency to delete things without my approval so I’m typing and posting quickly so that doesn’t happen!

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Technical Difficulties

I’m trying to blog more from my computer and fight the urge to throw it when I attempt to post.  I just can’t win because it takes so long to type from my phone but posting pictures is usually a no-brainer.

As Keira is napping, I’m wasting time trying to figure out WP a little better so I changed my theme (it was too boring for me…even though I don’t even see it 99% of the time due to the mobile version) and now I can’t remember if I have an “about me” section.  Do you guys think I need one?  Do I already have one that I just can’t find in my new theme?

And I have successfully missed all nap time opportunities to get ANYTHING done today because Little Miss is starting to stir.  I need a shower, I’m starting to grow funk.  Just kidding.  Sorta.

Oooh, and a question I pondered last night and thought I’d ask some other people…

What would you do with a “free day”?

No significant other, no kids, no work, no responsibility, no spending limit.  This is basically a “what would you do with a million dollars” type question, but I’m interested to see what other people consider a perfect ME day.

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Award…what what!

Here’s the deal:  There’s this thing called the Liebster Award…

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AND I GOT ONE!!!  NIENER NIENER NEINER!!!

This award is given to bloggers who inspire you and have less than 200 followers.  Basically, it’s your best-kept secret… or dirty little secret. 😉  And there are rules:

  1. Link back to the person who gave it to you and thank them.
  2. Post the award to your blog.
  3. Give the award to 5 bloggers with less than 200 followers that you appreciate and value (It’s a great way to get to word out there about other blogs!!)
  4. Leave a comment on the 5 blogs to let them know that they have received this award.

I was given this award by Martha at Whatup Chickenbutt?.  Her blog is about fitness and basically, being an all-around bad bitch.  She owns a bar/restaurant and works her butt off (pun intended) at the gym.  And she isn’t a cardio-until-your-legs-fall-off kind of girl.  She hits the weights like a champ.  Her attitude is right up my alley and she cusses like a sailor.  We would be besties in real life, I’m sure.

Since I’m horrible about blogging, I’m not going to do 5 (do I even follow 5 blogs?  SAD, I tell you!).  And is it bad to cross blog hosts?  I do follow a lot of Blogspot blogs…  Well hell, I’ll do 5 but it will include some from Blogspot.  Deal with it.

And my computer is about to die.  To be continued…

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Ok, I’m back 🙂  And these are in no order.

My first nomination goes to the blog life.intentionally.  I’ve known this girls since we were about 4 years old in preschool.  We had ups and downs throughout our childhood/jr. high years but when it comes down to it, she is a motivated, devoted, sweet and passionate person who tells it like it is.  She loves God, firemen, food (we are from the same mold!) and her family.  She’d give you the shirt off her back in a heartbeat.  And she isn’t afraid to take life by the horns.  She’s going to be one of those “cool moms” with fascinating stories to tell of places she traveled before her 30th birthday!

Second nomination goes to Megan at Pearl Music.  We “met” online a couple years ago through a support group for women who carried to term their babies with a fatal prenatal diagnosis.  Since she lived in the same town as my brother, I got to meet her in person about a year and a half ago!  We also met up this past fall after we each had our rainbow babies.  It was a short meetup (our babies were sick…boo) but was so happy to see her again and meet her beautiful little bundle!  Her blog is about her relationship with God, her journey in CTT, decorating her beautiful home (their “haven”…so cute!), crafty adventures and plain old life.

Third nomination goes to Meghan at Shining Through The Sorrow.  This woman changed.my.life.  When we got Tyler’s diagnosis of Bilateral Renal Agenesis (Potter’s Syndrome), I had nowhere to turn.  I had never heard of it, the doctor told me that my baby was going to die, gave me information to abortion clinics…  I was reeling, to say the least.  Then I found Meg’s blog, documenting her pregnancy and birth of her sweet Potter’s baby, Gabe.  He was born just 3 days before we received the same devastating diagnosis.  Reading his birth story was one of the most beautiful accounts of a mother’s love that I’ve ever read.  Amazing.  Beautiful.  Inspiring.  Uplifting.  She started Shining Through The Sorrow recently, but there is a tab that takes you back to Gabe’s website and you can read all about that sweet little guy there!

Fourth nomination goes to Mandy at From Under The Weeping Willow.  Her story begins much like mine and Meghan’s but takes an unexpected, unlikely twist when she had her SECOND Potter’s baby (our doctors assured us all that it’s nearly impossible…).  There isn’t a whole lot that I can say about her, honestly.  She is incredible, writes beautifully and I hope to be the kind of mother to my children that she is to hers.  Through all of her trials and tribulations, I believe that she has become a truly remarkable human being.  She may have been before, but I didn’t know her then 😉

And my last nomination goes to Heidi and Buttons and Butterflies!  She is also a babyloss momma who CTT.  But she shares a love of sewing and crafting, like me!  She also has a charity in honor of her angel daughter called Butterfly Kisses where she embroiders babies’ name and footprints on blankets sent by grieving parents.  She has made some amazing quilts (one for Megan, actually!) and her blog talks about her adventures in sewing, decorating, parenting…it’s a good mix of life and hobbies.  And she has 4 boys at home, so life gets interesting!

Thanks for reading!

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The Switch and New Name

After messing with Blogger for about a month and half, I realized that it just doesn’t fit my blog needs.  There is way too much I wanted to blog about and I needed separate places for each one.

I change the name a bit, also.  I had wanted to name my blog “Rainbows and Puppies” even when it was on Blogger, but it was already taken and I didn’t think to check if adding my name was available.  So this one is Brittany’s Rainbows and Puppies (brittanysrainbowsandpuppies).  A few of you may know where rainbows and puppies comes from, but for those that don’t, it’s my sarcastic way of saying “life is perfect”…it’s “all rainbows and puppies”.  You know those people who gush and gush about how their boyfriend/fiance/husband/girlfriend/wife is the most wonderful being on the face of the Earth or how their relationship is just perfect or how their children are so brilliant?  Well their lives are just rainbows and puppies, aren’t they?  Let me tell you, I love my husband.  He is a good father, he works hard and provides for his family, he is my perfect partner.  My children are the best thing that ever happened to me and I love them more than anything in the world.  But my husband and I have had arguments.  Big ones.  And having my children has shown me heartbreak like I never imagined was possible.  That’s real, that’s the truth, and I think that more people can relate to that than rainbows and puppies.  Wouldn’t you agree?

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Welcome

Hello! I suppose this is a good place for an introduction. My name is Brittany (duh). I am a stay at home mom to “K”, a grieving mom to “T”, a wife to “J”, a housekeeper, a gourmet chef (*snort*), a pet owner and a crafty kinda lady. When I have too many thoughts and ideas floating around in my head, it gets a little crowded in there. Since I am a visual person, it helps to have a place to put those T&I (thoughts and ideas…clever, eh?). Some of my T&I are just for me, some are to share. Sometimes, the ones that I think are just for me, turn out to be things that I’d like to share. Here is where the blog comes in. This is a place to put everything “Brittany” – from marriage, to my donkeys (my dogs), to raising a child, to grieving a child, to crafting, to cooking, to couponing…the list is endless. I don’t expect a million followers or anything crazy. I just thought it would be nice for me to have an outlet and for my friends and family to laugh at my mishaps. You know I’ll post them. *wink*

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